My Best Tips for Pain-Free Intuitive Birthing

What if I told you that labor doesn’t have to be the excruciating, terrifying ordeal so many people make it out to be? Sounds kind of crazy, right? But seriously, you’re here because you’re drawn to the idea of freebirth, yet the lingering whispers of doubt and fear keep you up at night. You want a natural, intuitive birth that aligns with your values, but let’s be honest—you're not sure if you can handle the pain, the unknowns, or the pressure of going against the grain.

Here’s the truth: pain-free (or at least pain-managed) birth isn’t some mythical unicorn reserved for the lucky few. It’s real, and it starts with your mindset and a few intentional practices. So, if you’re ready to stop letting fear run the show and take back control of your birth experience, keep reading. I’m about to share the raw, unfiltered truth about how you can work with your body and intuition to have the birth you’ve been dreaming of.

So how do you get there?

Get Honest About What You Believe About Birth

Before we talk techniques, let’s dig into your beliefs. What stories about birth are you carrying? Were you told it’s supposed to hurt? That pain equals progress? That screaming, suffering, and "getting through it" is just part of the deal?

Let me hit you with some truth: birth isn’t inherently painful. Pain is your body’s way of signaling that something’s off—like tension, resistance, or fear. If you’re gripping your muscles in terror, yeah, it’s going to hurt. But when you lean into trust, surrender, and connection with your body, birth becomes a completely different experience. One of peace and sometimes ease and sometimes even JOY!

Action Step 1:

Journal about your beliefs surrounding birth. Ask yourself, “What have I been told about birth pain, and do I actually believe that’s the whole story?”

Rewrite those stories. For example, replace “Birth is scary and painful” with “Birth is powerful and I trust my body to guide me.” “My body is helping me, not hurting me.”

Stop Fighting Your Body—Learn to Work With It

Let’s talk physiology. Your body isn’t broken, and it doesn’t need saving. The same hormones that make labor happen (oxytocin, anyone?) are also designed to keep you calm and centered. The catch? You have to let them do their thing.

Fear and tension trigger adrenaline, which stalls labor and turns up the intensity of discomfort. But when you stay relaxed and connected to your instincts, your body will open and move naturally, minimizing pain.

Action Step 2:

How to Sync With Your Body:

Practice deep, diaphragmatic breathing during pregnancy. It sounds simple, but it’s a game-changer for keeping fear in check.

Use movement to help your body work efficiently—think swaying, squatting, or getting into water.

I personally like to do something I call “Dance Stretching” where I put on a favorite playlist and let my body move through stretches that feel good but aren’t static. Think Cat/Cow/Child’s pose all in a flow or standing and doing some hip circles and gradually making them bigger and adding your arms into the mix making huge arm circles at the same time. Just have fun with it and let the music move you… Literally.

Your Mindset Matters More Than You Think

Know this: if you go into birth expecting it to hurt, your brain is going to interpret every sensation as pain. That’s just how it works. But if you approach birth with curiosity and openness, those same sensations feel less threatening—and sometimes even empowering.

I’m not saying you need to fake positivity or pretend you’re not nervous. (Let’s keep it real: everyone has some fear about the unknown.) But shifting your focus from fear to trust can make a world of difference.

Action Step 3:

Spend time visualizing your ideal birth. What does it look like? What does it feel like? Get specific and use all your senses.

Create affirmations that feel authentic to you. For example: “I am capable, my body is strong, and I am ready to meet my baby.”

Don’t Go It Alone—Find Your Tribe

Honestly, pursuing freebirth can feel super lonely. Society, and maybe even your own circle, isn’t exactly cheering you on. That isolation can feed fear and make you second-guess yourself.

But here’s the truth: you don’t need everyone to support you. You just need a few people who get it. Surround yourself with like-minded women who remind you that your body is made for this.

Action Step 4:

Ways to Build Your Village:

Join online communities or groups specifically for freebirth or unassisted birthing moms.

Connect with other women who’ve walked this path and soak up their stories and wisdom.

Embrace the Messy, Imperfect Journey

Here’s your permission slip to stop trying to "get it all perfect." Birth isn’t a performance. It’s messy, raw, and unpredictable—and that’s exactly what makes it powerful.

You don’t have to know everything, have every possible tool on hand, or be a walking birth encyclopedia. You just need to stay connected to your instincts and trust your body to lead the way.

Ready to Rewrite Your Birth Story?

If you’re tired of letting fear and doubt hold you back, now is the time to step into your power. 

You’ve got this, and you don’t have to do it alone. 

I’ve helped countless women move from uncertainty to unshakable confidence in their ability to birth their way.

Download The Freebirth Collection here for all the supplies you could possibly want(including links), plus some more help with getting your mind right. You’ll walk away feeling empowered and ready to trust your body like never before.

Let me leave you with this: You were made for this. Not because you’re superhuman or fearless, but because you’re real. 

Messy, raw, and perfectly imperfect. 

Trust yourself, trust your body, and trust the process. 

You’re stronger than you know, and your baby is waiting for you on the other side of this incredible journey.

So, what’s one step you can(and WILL) take today to connect with your intuition and prepare for the birth you desire? Let me know in the comments—I’d love to hear from you!